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In a Moment of Power, How Do You Handle It?

October 28th, 2011 by stephanie

There are times in life where you and I find ourselves in a position of power. Maybe you find yourself at a point, like my GPS, where a little voice says, “YOU have arrived.” Even if it be ever so brief. When you or I come into a position of power, people watch to see how we handle it. Sometimes, there has been a painful journey to get that coveted place, and perhaps, we suddenly find ourselves thinking, “I have paid my dues! I’m taking everything that comes my way and that I can get. This is MY time.” Maybe you can relate.

The new promotion, the corner office, the plum job or the project someone else wanted, the award, the gig, the long awaited event, the friend, the husband or boyfriend, the moment of attention or the time you finally one up someone that you really feel deserved it –or, whatever. You worked hard to get there. You paid your dues. Now it’s your time!

It’s sometimes even just one of those moments when we are king of the hill or belle of the ball, and we know it. The most popular or beautiful person in the room. The star or the toast of the town. The chairman of the club or the quote of the week. The professional opinion or the consultant. The highly favored, or highest paid, if even for a day. The person in charge. Whatever the position or situation, at that moment, when if finds you, you know it, and you know it well. And you have a choice. Power to flaunt, or humility of spirit. Power to take. Or power to serve. Power to get revenge or the grace to just let it go.

You know what I am talking about. That sideways glance that lets the lesser person of the moment know that you are the one on top, or that you definitely won this round. The look that says you are in power, and that person had better be careful, or, revenge WILL occur. It’s just a matter of time. Maybe it’s that choice line that you throw their way to let them, or others in the room know, that they will pay for what they have done. Or perhaps it’s the comment you let drop to a key individual to “let them know” that you know.

Basically: it is a moment in time when the position of power is in your hands. And others are watching to see how you will handle it and what you will do with it.

It’s a choice we make. What will it be…for you?
Just my thoughts,

Are you finding yourself “downsizing” a bit?

October 21st, 2011 by stephanie

“We’re back to the same kind of car we had when we first married,” she mused as we looked around the room. Downsizing was in the making, and we were both remembering, if anything, a bit wistfully.

Just seems to be the season these days…but not for all folks.

A boat. A cabin. A motor home with car to match. A new house. Such were a few of the possessions that someone I once knew owned – all at one time. While some people simply hope to pay their electric bills, others, as the one mentioned above, are blessed with “things”.

Now, let me be clear, “things” aren’t bad. They can be, wonderful. Those who have them and enjoy them know what blessings they can be. And, understanding this, they share their things with others in order to spread the joy.

Thing, however, do not contain life. They are without life. Nor are they life giving. Without people, they just sit. Like in a museum where they don’t really do much other than offer us something to look at and ponder-and collect dust. For those of you who have had the luxury of things, you know exactly what I mean. Things are meant to be used and to be enjoyed–while we have them. They’re fun and they do make life a bit less boring.

King Solomon was a man who owned many things. The Queen of Sheba after her visit to his palace in Jerusalem was said to have noted that the stories she’d heard didn’t do justice to what she discovered during her stay. But Solomon was not always a happy man. The book of Ecclesiastes, (written by Solomon himself), explores this season of his life. Sometimes we find that we work harder for things than we do for the things that matter most.

Now, I realize this can vary from person to person, but the fact is, what we invest our time, our energy, and our resources in and on says a lot about who we are as a person.

Maybe we could all take a look this weekend and notice where we are investing most or ourselves. If we find we are more focused in, or on, things why not see if we can’t make a few adjustments here or there.

Life. It’s not about things. They’re just a part of it.

Just my thoughts…



Stand Strong.

October 7th, 2011 by stephanie

Someone mentioned to me the other day that they love when a man acts like a man and takes charge. I’d say that for the most part, most gals do. But all of us at times need to stand strong. People around us many times are looking to us for direction. And, we, who hold firm in our beliefs, need to be strong for those folks. When someone isn’t sure, or is seeking, at times, we are their strength until they get their legs under them.

There are some words of wisdom that come from the Apostle Paul on this subject. You can find them in the book of 1 Corinthians. But here’s how they went down.
Paul was visiting with the Christians living in the city of Corinth in Greece. The Greeks were educated, philosophized, cultured folk to be sure. But the admonition the Apostle gave them was anything but flowery and ethereal. It went more like this:

Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
Let all that you do be done in love.

Not really something you’d get from a Socrates seminar. But poignant none the less. In addition, what I find fascinating is how this powerful first statement is followed by a comment that some might consider “weak”. Did you notice it? After he tells them to buck up, he says, “…let all that you do be done in love.”

That sounds contradictory and seems to come out of nowhere. What I think he might mean is, to be strong, you don’t have to be ugly, or rude, or mean, or nasty. You don’t have to prove your point or drive it home. Strength comes in lots of different shapes and sizes. I guess it’s for us to learn to figure how that looks and how it works in our particular situations and everyday dealings.

With that, if you find yourself wavering on something today that you know you really need to hang tough on, let this encourage you. Find your way to strength. And then, maybe come back here and share your victory. Just a thought…


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