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Conflict: It happens to the best of us.

October 24th, 2012 by stephanie

There’s a great quote by John D. Rockefeller. He was a very successful man and very wealthy. But that did not make him immune to problems and conflict. If anything, there were more people in his daily life, and therefore, more conflict. His quote goes like this:

“The ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar or coffee, and I will pay more for that ability than for any other under the sun.”

A great statement to be sure.

Conflict does happen. And it happens to the best of us. But can it be resolved? Sometimes yes, and sometimes…no. Resolving conflict means that 2 sides are either agreeing to disagree and are willing to move forward together, or, the disagreement is simply a deal breaker. One party feels very injured, and if the other party is not willing to make things better, the injured party many times moves in the opposite direction.

If both sides dig in their heels and are not willing to see the other person’s side, or see that perhaps they are wrong, you have a problem. And sometimes, that problem just can’t be solved.

For example. You and I agree Hitler was very very wrong. He thought his cause was noble. You and I strongly disagree with that notion. So…NO resolution there for either side.

Whatever conflict you are facing today, ask yourself these questions:

1. Is this conflict worth it? Is there a fight here that I need to win. Must win. Or should morally win?

2. Is this conflict something that can be resolved? Yes, or no?

3. Should I keep investing, working to resolve, this conflict, or is it something I need to accept and leave alone? Are there changes I can and should make?

Only you know the answer to those questions. But it’s always worth taking a deeper look.

In the meantime, you may not need to make any decisions, you might just need some fresh perspective. Take a deep breath, get some new insight and input, and see where it takes you.

And for some wise words, maybe these will shed some light on the issue.

James 4:1 ¶ Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves.

Just my thoughts,



Double Zeus!

October 9th, 2012 by stephanie

It was a sunny morning. And as I peeked out the window, a movement caught my eye. In the driveway was a dog. Not just any pup, but the one that supposedly lived across the street in one side of the duplex. People rarely if ever saw this creature, so the fact that he was lounging on my property told me immediately, this dog has been abandoned. Sure enough, the owner had disappeared into the night without a trace The sweet dog lay in his yard, and in mine, for the next two days mourning the loss, waiting for his master to return home. He never did. But let me tell you, this was the best thing that could have ever happened to this critter.

Late the second day, I was able to coax the little guy up to my porch. I laid out the dog bed left behind by my sweet Judge and the cutie took to it in time. The neighbors had pulled together keeping him fed and watered, and after a bit, I got him in my back yard and onto the deck so he’d be safe and sound.

But there was a problem. Zeus, as a lady who lived near the duplex informed me of his name, looked like a pitbull. And I truly thought he was. In time, Animal Control was called, but the crafty canine alluded them. It was at that point, I knew I had to act. It had been made clear that if this group catches a dog looking anything like a “Pit”, the dog is put down within about 72 hours. If that!

So move fast I did. I got online and spent hours that night trying to track down places to take the dog that now had a death sentence hanging over his head. It was so unfair. No one knew this little guy…but he was doomed to die none the less. No chance. No voice. It really struck me.

Long story short, about 10 phone calls and 32 emails later, one lone sweet voice answered my plea. It was Tennessee Death Row Dogs. Their determination and networking skills connected me with Animal Attraction, in Columbia. The next day I  packed up the pooch and headed down the road.

He was a great little traveling companion, and it was hard to hand him over, but I needed to get him somewhere fast. I had a plane to catch a few hours from the drop off, and my fence was not dog friendly. He had no where else to go.

At this fabulous location, the people were welcoming and made the transition doable. I promplty gave them a donation. I was so relieved and pleased. Zeus was sent to the vet to get neutered and for a chip, and then a foster home was quickly found.

What transpired next broke my heart. The dog at the foster home (ironically also named Zeus!) and little Zeus got into it. A torn achilles was the result. Expensive surgery followed, and a cast, and now Zeus, once again, needs a nice quiet home. If you have been thinking about a dog, a foster situation is a great way to go. A place to start. No promises. No commitment. Just your loving heart to make a place for a doggie in need until a forever home is found. I’d love for you to be a part of this story. If you can join us in this great adventure, this second chance at life for Zeus, please contact me ( We will connect you with some of the BEST people you have ever met. Really!


PS: It was later determined Zeus is NOT a “Pit”. He is a BULLY/BOXER mix. 🙂


It’s people like you and me that help care for these sweet abandoned babies (Vet bills, boarding, etc). They need us. 🙂 Please make a donation on behalf of ZEUS… WE PROMISE 100% will go to this situation and those animal response teams that assisted. If you donate directly to Tn Death Row Dogs, you will receive a tax deduction. Now, doesn’t that make it worth it! Helping the innocents and a tax write off to boot!

Columbus Day…but maybe not in YOUR state.

October 8th, 2012 by stephanie

I woke up this morning to NPR letting me know that certain states don’t acknowledge Columbus Day anymore. Apparently, certain people groups are offended by that person and celebrating him is quite taboo. But I imagine this is not news to you, nor was it to me. (Is it just me, or is stuff like this not getting a bit old.)

(sigh) 🙂

When I came across a few journal entries of Christopher Columbus, I had to stop and take a look. I did know some trivia on the man. Like the fact that he turned fully gray by the age of 33. But other than that, these days, we don’t hear a lot directly from his own words. We are just told what to think or believe about him.

With that, here are a few of his own words I was able to locate about the famous Discoverer.
Columbus’ actual journals have been lost, but two of his companions, his son Ferdinand and Bartolome Las Casas, recorded abstracts of the original journal. At places they quote Columbus and in other places they summarize his journals.
Wednesday, Dec. 12th…
A large cross was set up at the entrance of the harbour, upon a beautiful spot upon the western side, “as an indication” in the words of the Admiral, “that your Highnesses possess the country, and principally for a token of Jesus Christ our Lord, and the honour of Christianity.”

Wednesday, Jan. 23rd…
The sea all the time smooth as a river, “many thanks be to God,” says the Admiral.

After his arrival in Lisbon, Columbus wrote a summary account of his voyage as a report for King Ferdinand and Queen Isabella of Spain. It was written as a letter to Rafael Sanchez, Treasurer for the royals, and clearly reveals Columbus’ motivation. The following quotes are from this letter:

“I named the first of these islands San Salvador [which means holy saviour], thus bestowing upon it the name of our holy Saviour under whose protection I made the discovery.”
Other names he chose included Trinidad [for the Trinity], and Monte Cristi (Christ’s Mt.].
I loved reading the parts where he gave the natives bright hats and other fun items he’d brought from Spain. Their delight and gratitude is touching. He goes on and on about what delightful people he was discovering along his way.

We hear a lot about Columbus these days. But many times, what we hear is what someone, centuries later, wrote about him, or knew personally about him. I like to know what he really said. What his colleagues wrote and what the courts documented. Much more fascinating, in my opinion.
When you google him today, as many of you I am sure will 🙂 just be sure to check your sources. Always default, when you can, to get it from the horses mouth. Someone that was really there- or spoke with someone that was.
Have fun.
Just my thots,

The Life and Voyages of Christopher Columbus, Washington Irving, (New York: Belford Company, n.d.,) pp. 632-633.
The following journal excerpts and quotes of Columbus are from the work of Las Casas, printed by Albert and Charles Boni, New York, 1924

Are You Grateful?

October 3rd, 2012 by stephanie

“What ya readin’?” I asked as I breezed by my friend who was lunching outside. “Bonhoeffer,” was her reply, “…so sad.”
Yes. It is a sad story, but it has a wonderul message and he was a fabulous man. (You should check him out when you have time)
As I drove off, I was grateful. That I live in America. That I am healthy. That I have clothes, a home and food on my table. That I have freedom to think, believe and do as I truly wish – for the most part.
But those perks of America just don’t seem to be enough for some folks. And I have to admit, it really irks me.
Ever been around someone who is negative? Of course you have. And when we are, we usually feel like running for the nearest exit. In fairness though, I too have an attitude some days that can chase folks off if I am not careful.

The negative people I am referring to, however, just don’t seem to find the good or the upside to anything. Even when you point something out, they almost argue with you to prove that the sky is falling. Or at least, they inform you that it will within time. You just wait!

What we think about spins around and processes in our minds. In time, those thoughts then take action. Do you follow that? If I chew on a thought like say, “Oh, I don’t feel well.” You can bet by noon, I will be quite sick.

However, if I want to lose weight and I focus on exercise, I will find myself beginning to make some time for it. Because it will be on my mind. If I am determined to have a good day, then I most likely will. If I want to be nice to people, and think about ways that I can be kind and thoughtful, it’s going to happen. I think you understand.

I found a few wise words to back up my point. See what you think:

“For as he thinks within himself, so he is” (Proverbs 23:7).
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute . . . dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8).

If those words don’t help…try being grateful. For something. Anything. You’ll be amazed at how it can turn your day, no your life, around.

Just my thoughts on this very lovely fall day.


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